Ohai-atus!

On Monday I went out with my first set up. Bachelor #15 is a guy that my cousin (and her mom) thought would be great for me. She said he’s very nice, he always has them laughing, he’s responsible. Sounds good. Sign me up.

He & I spoke on the phone several times. He was certainly nice and I suppose I chuckled a few times too. However, he sharted all over most of my ideas of 'fun'. When I asked him if he likes to go bowling he said “I actually hate bowling.” o.k. I told him that I really like going to Chicago and he said he didn’t like Chicago either. But then about a minute later he told me he’s never actually been to Chicago but “it just doesn’t seem like it would be my thing.” Here's a thought... how about you try something first before dismissing it, guy? There were at least 2 other things he gave the thumbs down to that I brought up. And that was just in our first conversation. He has a very narrow spectrum of what he does in his spare time. And, if that works for him, that’s fine. But I’m the total opposite. I just like to keep my options open and I would prefer someone with a like mindset. By the way, my cousin insists he was just doing this "to be funny". No. But even if that was the case, I don't get the "joke".

Additionally, he also used the word ‘FAIL’ (All caps. Usually followed by an 'lol'.) on me many times both on the phone and via text. Like when I said I still had Christmas shopping to do. And when I didn’t answer one of his phone calls. And when I said I hadn't been feeling well the day before. And when I said I didn’t know where I wanted to meet him for lunch. It got pretty old.

Basically, I knew I was not interested in this guy but I decided I’d still go out with him to appease my cousin.

So we met in person and he was a lot less… annoying? He was really laid back and nice. Of course, a little while into the date he told me that he was pretty well drugged up since he had been sick for a few days. This is the second guy I’ve gone out with since I started this thing that’s overdosed before the date. At least I didn’t have to drive this one home. [See: Bachelor #2 ]

But overall the date was fine. He works for my uncle’s company (where a lot of my family members work) so we spent some time catching up on the family gossip that I’m not privy to otherwise. There were definitely some lulls in the conversation so that aforementioned family gossip was a good thing to fall back on.

In a nutshell, very nice guy but we don't have much in common. Also, he wants kids and the thought of having more kids makes me violently ill.

So, with that I'm going to be taking a break from this self-imposed date-a-thon for a bit. I'm (moooost likely) taking down my online profiles and am going into hibernation for just a little while. But not too long. While this experience has been fraught with creeps and assholes, there has still been a lot about it that has been fun and an interesting learning experience for me. I have gone out with a few pretty cool people and, while none of them have worked out thus far, I still had fun. And if I don’t put myself out there, nothing good will ever happen. Or so they say, right? I'll still be updating my blog with some "observations" for the 3 people that read this. So fear not, while I won't officially be doing much dating for the next several weeks, I'll still be lovin', touchin' and bloggin'. (Full circle.) Namaste.